What to do if your teenage son gets a teen girl pregnant.

Finding out that your teen son has gotten a teen girl pregnant can be shocking. You need to take a deep breath before you truly deal with it. While your son will not have to worry about the physical problems of the pregnancy, you should encourage him to play a supportive role during and after the pregnancy. Here are a few tips you should do to prepare:

• Find out all of your teenage son's legal options and responsibilities during and after the pregnancy.
• Do not push marriage. Getting married for that reason alone is not in anyone's best interest.
• You will want to get in contact with the pregnant mother's parents, letting them know you wish to be kept informed and keep contact information.
• Arrange a paternity test after the baby is born.
• Talk to your son about what the expectations and responsibilities of fatherhood e.g. parenting and financial support.

Effective Activities to prevent teen pregnancy.

  1. If your child has a difficult time asking you questions, have him/her text you the question.
  2. Teach your child the HALTS concept - don't make any decisions when you are:  Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, or Sad.

  3. Discuss with your child the qualities of a good friend and help them to seek out those kinds of friends e.g. trust, respect etc.
  4. Foster a high level of confidence and self esteem to enable them to withstand peer pressure.
  5. Give your child money to call for a quick ride home with NO QUESTIONS ASKED!
  6. Have your child come in to say good- night when they arrive home.  You can see, hear, and smell how they are really doing.
  7. Always tell your child and show him or her that you love them.

Improving the Odds to prevent teen pregnancy.

  1. Know who they're running with:  Peer pressure can be bad - or good.  Like adults, kids want to fit in; so get to know their friends (and their parents) to know what their values are.
  2. Keep them guessing:  While you can't watch them 24/7, you can check in from time to time.  With so many parents working, kids don't need to sneak off in the back seat of a car to get into trouble.
  3. Know what they're filling their minds with:  Read the lyrics on their CDs and cassettes.  Watch the shows and channels they watch.  If you find something you don't like, let them know and discuss in a mutual conversation why you think that it's inappropriate.
  4. Model appropriate behavior:  Times have changed since you were a kid, but the learning process is still the same.  Children learn what they live and live what they learn.
  5. Be approachable:  Take them out to a special dinner or find another quiet time to discuss their thoughts and feelings about the information presented on this web site.  BE SURE TO LISTEN MORE THAN YOU TALK.
  6. Set limits:  Kids get bored fast, so the earlier they start dating and the more you let them do, the more they will push the line.
  7. Teach respect:  Kids need to be taught to respect themselves, and others - including members of the opposite sex.
  8. Teach responsibility:  Prepare your child for the "real world" by showing them that their actions have consequences.
  9. Teach decision making skills:  Have your kids practice making good choices on simple every day things.  Then point out how their decision affects not only them, but others as well.
  10. Don't be afraid to be a parent:  Kids are not little adults.  They don't have your experience and are dependent on you for guidance.  Even though they may act tough, they may just be protecting themselves or testing you to see if you really care.